What if You Had a Conversation With Your Younger Self?
For all our days have passed away in Your wrath; We finish our years like a sigh. The days of our lives are seventy years; And if by reason of strength they are eighty years, Yet their boast is only labor and sorrow; For it is soon cut off, and we fly away. Who knows the power of Your anger? For as the fear of You, so is Your wrath. So teach us to number our days, That we may gain a heart of wisdom. Psalm 90:9-12 NKJV
Inagine you are in the Twighlight Zone and you are having a conversation with your teenage self. What would you tell yourself? Here are just a few things I would tell the 15 year old version of me.
Be kind to your parents and family elders. You won’t understand their struggle until you are older and they are gone. Once you understand it will be too late to tell them you get it now, because they will be gone.
Be kind to your teachers who act like they are superior and so much smarter and better than you. They want you to think they have it all together and have arrived, but they are actually fighting insecurities and battles that go back to their own childhood. They cover it up well now so you can’t see it. But when you get older you will look back and see it. But it will be too late to do anything about it, because they will be gone by then.
Be kind to your peers. When you get older you will hear stories about how they were abused at home or at school in ways you can’t even imagine now. When you find out 20 or 30 years later, you will wish you had been kinder to them while you were growing up. You will tell yourself, If only I had known what they were going through I would have been more kind to them. Then you will realize you didn’t need to know what they were going through in order to be kind. You could just be kind.
Savor every bite of your grandmother’s cooking. You will never taste anything that good for the rest of your life.
Don’t stop writing in your journal. Your life may seem routine and mundane now but it will help you see things about yourself later that will help you grow.
Eat healthy food now, so when you get older, healthy food will be your comfort food.
Don’t worry about making stupid mistakes in front of people. The people who see your silly mistakes are just as human as you are. You don’t need to impress them.
Oh and just so you know, the kid you just made fun of in class will be at the airport at 2 am to pick you up, when you fly back home in about 35 years to see your mother right before she dies.
Also, you know you are pretty sure you know who made that generous anonynmus donation to your tuition? Well you’re wrong. Its actually someone you would never guess in a million years. So just be kind to everyone.
I know you were humiliated when the teacher caught you cheating on that test. Don’t worry, she does not think any less of you. The only way she knew you were cheating is because that’s how she cheated when she was in school and got caught. She knows you will never do it again, She’s an honest person now, and she knows you are too.
Learn how to manage your money wisely. Don’t let yourself feel inferior to those who may have more than you. Your self-worth has nothing to do with your bank account. Pay cash. If you can’t afford to pay cash for it, then you certainly can’t afford to pay interest on it as well. You can do without it until you can pay cash for it.
Find the beauty in people. By the time you see the beauty in a flashing star it’s already gone. People are flashing stars too. Don’t wait until they are gone before you realize how beautiful they are.
By the tine you realize how short life is, it will mostly be gone. Use your time wisely.
When you get older, there will be this thing called the Internet and Sabbath School Net. You’re going to love writing for Sabbath School Net, and you will meet a lot of wonderful people doing so!
Don’t let the excitement of youth cause you to forget your Creator…… Remember him before the door to life’s opportunities is closed and the sound of work fades. Now you rise at the first chirping of the birds, but then all their sounds will grow faint. Remember him before you become fearful of falling and worry about danger in the streets; before your hair turns white like an almond tree in bloom, and you drag along without energy like a dying grasshopper, and the caperberry no longer inspires sexual desire. Remember him before you near the grave, your everlasting home, when the mourners will weep at your funeral. Yes, remember your Creator now while you are young, before the silver cord of life snaps and the golden bowl is broken. Don’t wait until the water jar is smashed at the spring and the pulley is broken at the well. For then the dust will return to the earth, and the spirit will return to God who gave it……Fear God and obey his commands, for this is everyone’s duty. God will judge us for everything we do, including every secret thing, whether good or bad. Ecclesiastes 12:1-14 NLT
One last thing: Don’t worry about the future. Everything will turn out way better than you even dreamed possible!
So, if you talked to your younger self, what would you have to say? Please do tell.
I would tell myself to spend more time with God and less time on selfish pursuits, activities and dreams.
I would tell myself to learn more about God and less about any other subject.
I would tell myself to follow God and Pray to God for Wisdom in choices of occupation.
I would tell myself that pursuing full time work is as valuable and more profitable than pursuing full time student.
I would tell myself to be a full time worker and a part time student.
I would spend more time in leisure and recreation enjoying nature where you can develop Spiritually.
I would spend more time developing Spiritually instead of mentally and physically.
I would not be afraid to be part of The Remnant Church.
I would spend more time studying The Bible.
I would avoid consumption of alcoholic beverages,narcotics and tobacco.
I would give myself a once in a lifetime beating!
Ronald be kind to yourself! Sometimes we have to forgive ourselves as we forgive others.
If only I could forget all my past. I think of it when am alone, especially in the woods and cry. May God help me start afresh and as David prayed, I too will be able to teach the future adults how to live. Psalm 51:12,13
• I would tell my younger (Baptist) self that believing what my pastor told me is not the same thing as believing in God’s Word.
• Wait patiently, God’s plan really is best and it will happen in His time.
• You are valuable to God, regardless of what people have told you about your worth. Those people who told you that you have no worth were probably struggling with understanding their own value and carried that struggle over to their interactions with other people.
• You have far more friends than you realize. There are many people who want to support you, they are just waiting for you to ask them.
• Choose your close friends wisely. They will influence you far more than you may realize at the time. Spending time with friends who don’t share your values will be more likely to tear down your values than to build theirs up.
• Tell people you love them. You never know when it might be your last chance to tell them.
• Don’t be afraid of sharing what the Holy Spirit prompts you to say. Even if the person you’re speaking to seems unreceptive, someone nearby may well be listening intently and receive the message with gladness.
• Don’t expect material possessions to meet your desires for meaning. Only God can give meaning to your life as you study His Word and pray for His guidance.
I would tell my 15 year old self to prioritize God’s word and get self esteem from knowing that you are fearfully and wonderfully made ❤️
Thank you for sharing your beautiful thoughts. Happy Sabbath to all!
I would tell myself not to sin not to give in to temptation, not to receive, lie, not to steal in anyway, not to steal people joy or happiness, not to complain, not to argue, not to judge, not to procrastinate. Teach my children about God. Live a Godly life. Not to curse. Not to use people. Use a soft answer. Read God’s Bible and pray. I would not get angry at my children, my mother, siblings, friends, families or relatives. I have sin and asking God to coming my life and change.its time for me to change and ask God to help me change. I feel broken but God can help me.🙏🏿
I think I would tell myself two things, though I needed to learn them over the years. I’d tell myself that really spending time with God and reflecting on His Word is so valuable. I read the Bible a lot from childhood up, did the yearly reading plans etc. but it’s only in the last few years I really started studying Scripture really slowly and searching to really know Jesus. I wish I had started earlier.
The second thing I’d tell myself is not to try to obey because I love God. Instead I would tell myself that it’s God’s work to make me obey. Mine is to cooperate with Him and get to know Him so I’ll trust Him to do His work. Real obedience is a heart change. It’s not about trying harder. Knowing this has profoundly changed my approach to life and I’m sorry I was well into my 30s when I finally discovered it.